"It is not enough to be busy. So are the ants. The question is: What are we busy about?"
--Henry David Thoreau
Tuesday morning, I had an appointment with the dr. in Oklahoma City. I let the nurse know that I would be delivering in Dallas (which I don’t think I had mentioned before), and that we would be relocating to Dallas as well. After checking my cervix (which is still holding up), the nurse took the usual rundown of information and ultra sounds, then told me the dr. would be in shortly to see me. I am pleased to say that I did not have a bad feeling in my gut this time. After my last appointment in Dallas, I felt like we were approaching level ground with the growth and development of the twins, and that regardless, all will be the way it is supposed to be - by design. And for the time being, I was at peace with this.
The dr. came in and asked about the delivery plans and our ultimate plans, which we discussed. It seemed like this information lifted a heavy burden off of the dr.’s shoulders, too, though I can’t be sure. Maybe my overly calm and cheerful spirits brightened my perception, but regardless, he said the boys are growing, and that they seem to have stabilized. There had not been any major positive or negative changes in their statuses. This, for me, was great news.
After returning to work on Tuesday, my co-workers held a ‘Celebration of Life’ party (our version of a baby shower) for me and the twins complete with delicious muffins (3 varieties! lemon, chocolate w/ peanut butter frosting, and vanilla with a frosting flavor that I will describe as scrumptious!) made by one of our very own, and very talented administrative assistants, drinks, cards, a flower-pot filled with origami money flowers, and tons of well-wishes. I was brought to tears by the kindness, generosity, and support of those that I work with. Thank you all for your loving spirits. This is what makes working with you all so easy! And a special thanks to Ms. Sherryl Green, who was the creative master-mind behind it all. Your warmth and compassion will always be an inspiration to me! Thank you!
Wednesday, Dave and I celebrated (or at least acknowledged (: ) our 4th wedding anniversary! We celebrated by driving to Dallas after I got off work. My grandmother was able to watch our boys during our stay in Dallas. She has been so helpful while we have lived here! She is a fill-in babysitter when either of the boys is sick, she has offered to watch them while we go to appointments, and she continually makes herself available, often inconveniencing herself to help us out. In addition, she keeps up with the housework (or catches up on the housework)! My grandma is an amazing woman!
Thursday was filled with appointments for the twins. The first was with the maternal-fetal specialist, who it is always a pleasure to meet with. He took ultra-sounds of the twins, and reported that one twin is 2lbs 1oz, and the other is 1lb 13oz. They are both still right on target for gestational age. He gave us another profile shot of baby 'B,' but we still couldn't get a shot of baby 'A's' profile because of the way they are positioned. He also told us that baby ‘B’ still shows signs of ventricular megaly, and that it has increased, but that there is no need to worry because it will not affect either of their growth or development, and that we would take the appropriate action once the twins were born. Until then, we will continue to monitor their progress, and take notes. We have begun the waiting process at this point. The dr. told me that he would like to see me back in 3 weeks (last time he had indicated that we would be doing 2 week intervals, but because everything seems to be progressing well, we would continue with 3 week intervals for the time being). I scheduled my next appointment for Thursday, May 23.
Our next appointment was with the high risk O.B. who will be delivering the twins. The nurse took my blood pressure…twice because it measured high the first time. It measured high the second time, but not so high that precautions have to be taken right now. We will continue to monitor this as well. While we waited for the dr., the child-life specialists came in to talk to Dave and me about how to begin discussing the twins with Ethan. She told us to start off talking about the daily and weekly development of the babies (today/this week they are developing their *fill-in-the-blank* (fingernails, or eyelashes i.e.). Once he understands that they are growing and developing every day, then discuss how when they first started developing, that they decided to share some of their parts. In our case, we would tell him that they share their bellies, but that the dr.’s would watch and study how they develop, and when the time was right, they would give them both their own belly. She gave us a picture of twins who were very similar to our twins to show Ethan. Dave and I were able to talk to him about the twins after we arrived home, and even though he had a lot of questions, he seemed to take it all in and be ok with it. He is such a resilient little man. We told him that he could ask us questions any time, and that we would do the best we could to answer his questions, even though we don’t know everything there is to know about the twins yet.
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